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- Listen to their problems—once.
- don’t empower feelings of self-victimization.
- Don’t feed their problems with attention
- Have a zero tolerance policy for self-pity.
- The hardest part of dealing with people who play the victim is the social pressure you’ll feel to let them play the victim.
- Never give value to people who have a record of using the value you give them in negative and unproductive ways.
- Never give value to people who are going to use the value you give them as a crutch to continue to do nothing.
- Your end goal is to make them more self-reliant, not to make them rely on you more.
- Don't let others hold your guilt, your kindness, your time, your reputation, or your desire for their approval for ransom . Never allow it.
- Never play the victim in your own life.
- Invite them to do whatever petty thing they’re going to do
- Your life is your fault. You can always control HOW you handle it.
- Don’t worry about it. When you notice yourself worrying, actively choose something else