```dataview LIST FROM #ByronKatie ``` - NOTES - Byron Katie - [The Work of Byron Katie - thework.com](https://thework.com/view-video/2021-09-28-ls-room/) Tue, Sep 28, 2021 - The Work of Byron Katie Replays - July 2021 - August 2021 - June 2021 - May 2021 - [https://thework.com/view-video/2020-10-28-ls-room/](https://thework.com/view-video/2020-10-28-ls-room/?fbclid=IwAR2UQscEGe9A9Kyenmcy9LZKIGNpV-yLi18QPdry0JQnum10ei5jgrGkbug) - April 2021 - March 2021 - February 2021 - January 2021 - The Work of Byron Katie #video #byronkatie #thework Mon, Dec 28, 2020 > [https://thework.com/view-video/2020-12-28-ls-room/](https://thework.com/view-video/2020-12-28-ls-room/)[](https://thework.com/view-video/2020-12-28-ls-room/) - June 2020 - May 2020 - One Belief at a Time [The Work of Byron Katie - thework.com](https://thework.com/i-complain-about/) - Watch "Do You Really Need a Partner to Be Happy?—The Work of Byron Katie" on YouTube > [https://youtu.be/Om35C9abRls](https://youtu.be/Om35C9abRls) - It is an imaginary you in the past or the future - That was the you of the past - Are you okay right now - Watch "The Meat Industry is Violent—The Work of Byron Katie®" on YouTube > [https://youtu.be/t36ExIRv7rI](https://youtu.be/t36ExIRv7rI) - You can continue to dream. Just know it's a dream. - You can let your open mind think in other areas - You can't change us - Resentment [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0yR4KVvc98](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0yR4KVvc98) - "THere are two ways to be with someone. At peace. - "It's not a boundary, it's the truth." - "When it's okay with you, you stay. When it's not okay, you go." - "I look forward to taking place to anyone if they make him happy." - "If I take me out of it, it's nothing. It's a movie." - "I am my partner." - "I am having a love affair with myself." - "That's who we are. Children at 90." - "As I question my mind, giving up happens. It just falls away. It's freedom." - I want you to be happy [https://youtu.be/OhFdeWLjf5k](https://youtu.be/OhFdeWLjf5k) - What do you suggest? - I'll try to X differently next time. Here we are. What do you suggest? - [https://youtu.be/ZzYz9CEhuXE](https://youtu.be/ZzYz9CEhuXE) - "Its OK for someone to be angry at you. They're giving you their internal life." "I can't make it all about me." - Marie forleo - Watch "Stuck In A Negative Headspace? Stop Suffering w/ Byron Katie’s 4 Questions (LIVE Demonstration)" on YouTube > [https://youtu.be/lr0_afKsI8M](https://youtu.be/lr0_afKsI8M) - With your - [https://youtu.be/nlErEpASmOw](https://youtu.be/nlErEpASmOw) - "Your authenticity gives people permission to be authentic in their lives. That's not the point of it, but it does happen that way" - "There are only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s (God of your understanding) - "The effect of mentally being out of my business is lonliness. - To assume that I know what’s best for your path is pure arrogance. It assumes that in the long run I know more than you or God about your life and welfare. The effect of this arrogance is tension, worry and anxiety. The purpose of being mentally in your business is to keep me from being present with myself. - The kind thing is to just know what is best for me, in the moment. This is my business, this is my life. This practice keeps me healthy, effective, and free of stress. From this inner place I live as a clear and loving example of peace - your friend without conditions. - P.S. If you practice living in your own business for a while, you may come to see that you have no business." - Katie - Relationship Wisdom–Being a Literal or Inferential Person > [https://nathaliehimmelrich.com/relationship-wisdom-being-a-literal-or-inferential-person/](https://nathaliehimmelrich.com/relationship-wisdom-being-a-literal-or-inferential-person/) - As an inferential person you have to remember that your assumptions are just that: assumptions. - They do not necessarily need to reflect reality, as much as they might seem like that to you. - [As](http://you.as/) mentioned above, remember to ask the literal person specifically what you want them to do: - Please wash the dishes. - Could you please also dry them and put them away. - If your partner comes out of the kitchen without having cleaned the bench, then aim to add this specific detail. - Don’t assume he or she didn’t do it to get back at you, even though that’s what you might do. - Suggestions for the literal person: - If you are unsure what your partner might mean with a request, aim to clarify. - This way you avoid misunderstanding and upset. - Have a clear understanding of what your partner’s likes and dislikes are and make sure you remember that cleaning the dishes also means wiping the bench afterwards. - For both: - Repeat to yourself ‘my partner is a literal person, which means he/she does things I specifically and clearly ask’ - or ‘my partner is an inferential person, he/she will, for example, infer that me not coming home at the usual time means something is wrong.’ - **RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATION** - Byron Katie - Honesty - "You're saying X. I'm so glad you shared that with me. X. I really get that. You're saying X and you're right, I do do X" > [https://youtu.be/mNbGbjaNt6g](https://youtu.be/mNbGbjaNt6g) - "Until we're clear and we're listeners, we're at war. - "When you have loving communication, they come to it themselves" - "If they don't change I'm out of here. And maybe the next one won't judge me. Mmhm" "Beyond what the mind can see is always kinder than what it sees, that's the privilege of an open mind. If I am right, and someone says, "Katie you're wrong, and here is why," and if I do not defend, if I am open to that, then that person can educate me, they can change my position to a more intelligent one. And if their reasons don't make sense, I am where I began anyway. The only way the mind changes is when it sees a benefit. The benefit can be that I get to win, I'm right, or I can drop my position and open to new information and be right in that. This is always kinder; there's no attack in it. In this I have more to give and more to receive. In the beginning, it learns as a student of itself that everything is for it. Everything adds to it, enlightens it, reveals itself to it, feeds it. Nothing is against it and never was. This is a mind that has graduated out of a polarized state. It's no longer split; it has ceased to be two-sided. It begins to open, because it's living out of a fearless, undefended state, and it's excited, hungry for knowledge. It realized that it's everything, so it learns to exclude nothing. This excitement eventually changes to the awareness that everything is its own knowledge, and because it is no longer stuck it ceases to be excited and levels to an openness that is so gentle and so without opposition that it is experienced form all angles, sides, views, there is simply nothing to defend. And in the absence of defense is openness. There's nothing more gentle than genuine, open-minded reception. It can only bring knowledge and continue in its infinite, creative, nonstop way. "- Katie