[https://www.gottman.com/blog/premarital-relationships-building-love-maps/](https://www.gottman.com/blog/premarital-relationships-building-love-maps/) - What feelings and thoughts race through your mind when you anticipate seeing your partner soon? - What are some of your partner’s quirks? - What kinds of humor do the two of you enjoy? - Do the two of you diverge in your communication style when you are being playful together? - Is there anything that doesn’t work? How could it be improved? - What does loving each other mean to you? How do you and your partner demonstrate your love for each other? How do you show your appreciation? - What are three of your partner’s deepest hopes, aspirations, or dreams? - How do the two of you feel about sharing your past sexual histories? - Do any aspects of your past or current sexual experiences make either of you uncomfortable? - How do the two of you feel about having children? Pets? How strong are your positions on these questions? In what circumstances do you imagine you could change your mind?