# Facebook Source URL:: https://www.facebook.com/lindsaybraman/photos/a.109003177251212/317045016447026/ Often, just listening can really help someone process a difficult emotion or experience- When it comes to shame,... ## Highlights > [!quote]+ %%Updated on Mon Sep 19 2022 10:49:57 GMT-0400%% > > Often, just listening can really help someone process a difficult emotion or experience- When it comes to shame, however, sometimes quietly listening can actually heighten shame in the other person.⁠⁠If you sense that shame is present, being a supportive listener may mean taking a more active, affirming role. @reconnectmarriage 's best suggestion: The two little words "of course (you feel/think/want/etc)..." can help ease the sting of shame through affirming and verbalized empathy. ⁠