## Reconnect and nurture your relationship every day Source URL:: <https://www.gottman.com/blog/everyday-ways-to-reconnect-and-nurture-your-relationship> ### Highlights > [!quote]+ %%Updated on Mon Apr 18 2022 01:02:22 GMT-0400%% > > Mind your manners &gt;Particularly when you feel overwhelmed, your manners can go out the window with your partner. You forget small, but significant words like “good morning,” “have a good day,” “please,” and “thank you.” A sincere greeting, kind wish, or show of gratitude can go a long way in fostering positive feelings on both sides. > [!quote]+ %%Updated on Mon Apr 18 2022 01:02:29 GMT-0400%% > > Share appreciative stories &gt;Take a few minutes to reflect on one trait you appreciate about your partner and a story that illustrates that quality. Then let your partner know, whether that’s in person, over text, or in a quick email. Strive to share one story each day. > [!quote]+ %%Updated on Mon Apr 18 2022 01:02:43 GMT-0400%% > > As stress levels lead to disconnection, it’s easier to zero in on negative traits and everything your partner is not doing, which further expands the distance between you. To counteract the negativity, follow up a critical thought with a positive one.