“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it's terrible..Just for a moment, feel what that unconditionally giving heart/mind felt like, the heart that doesn’t for a moment expect anything in return. Be present in that situation as it occurs to you again in your mind’s eye, that situation you may have experienced on that day of wanting to give, and notice "you," in that situation, your emotions, and most loving-hearted self. Wonderful! That’s what it feels like when the heart is free to live out its true being without the "self" interest. The heart that wasn’t thinking about what it will get in return and sees the beloved, the Valentine of your heart, as essence, not "body." There are terms for that kind of giving, like light-hearted, kind-hearted, delighted, "in" love (and I say, "as love"). But those can also be terms that others see you as, as a result of your living out of that heart at its spontaneous, uninterrupted best. Isn’t it strange and wonderful as well how the other, the receiver, mirrors your intentions back to you? The intentions that were there as you contemplated giving without and beyond a "self"? Hmmmm. Someone might give his love flowers, and she says, "I’m allergic to these; hurry, take them away!" If he sees her as rejecting him, he loses his Valentine (the one he loved purely in his heart, the one he bought the flowers for, as opposed to the one he gave them to, who was the real Valentine, not the one of his imagination. And then he might think, "What a dope I am! How could I have been so blind?" etc. Someone else might think, "She wants me to take them away! She is soooo honest. I adore her! I love that I can always count on my Valentine to guide me, since I would never want to be the cause of her allergy attack. She is so kind, direct, clear, and helpful. I never have to guess how to please her, and I have flowers to pass on to someone else now. Because my Valentine doesn’t pretend and is always honest with me, these flowers will serve someone else as well as they have served me." The list goes on and on when you REALLY love your partner and—through the eyes of clarity, through the eyes of your dearest partner—it is my desire that you should always love the dearest heart in the world: your own. Question the mind, allow the heart to live, to love 24/7, even in your waking sleep, and in your sleeping sleep as well. Happy heart moment, now, now, forever now I dream of you, Love without choice, BK