"What are my motives for commenting & posting? " Not that there is anything wrong with motives, I just like to know mine before I hit send! "I am having fun with these questions and appreciate all the input from others. I have had all of these motives at one time or another! I like these questions - not because there is anything wrong with motives, I just like to know mine before I hit send. Even if the answer is yes to a motive, I may still post it, but these questions help me do it with more integrity, not so un-consciously. Join me? "• What are my motives for commenting? " • Am I commenting to show the person I am right or that I know better? "• Is my comment designed to let them know that their comment was something I already understood? If so, what is my motive in letting them know that? "• When I have a differing point of view, is my comment direct and respectful, or am I "taking a shot at them" and maybe topping it off with an in-genuine smiley face? "• Did they ask the group not to give corrections or feedback on content? If so, is what I am commenting respecting that? "• Is my motive for this comment to SAVE them from pain or make them feel better? "• What do I want them to see as a result of my post? "• Am I genuinely offering help on the process itself or trying to teach them something about their thinking or my philosophies? "• Am I arguing with their findings because they are not what I would have found? "• Am I sharing what I found with a motive to show them what they SHOULD have found, or genuinely just sharing what I found when I went in? "• Am I offering turnaround suggestions based on the instruction for doing a turnaround and suggesting one they might have missed or do I have another motive for offering this particular turnaround? What is it? " • What is my motive for offering them new thoughts to work that are not the one they originally worked? Am I trying to find just the right thought to "fix" them? Or just sharing what I found. "• Am I commenting this to be helpful? " • Is my comment in integrity? Does it feel “off”? Is my heart pounding? If so, I can ask myself why before I hit send. Just nice to know." Lisa Holliday