- Feeling Great Notes - Flirting - Less serious, more playful. Stop taking people so seriously - Acceptance paradox: Surrender with a sense of humor. Find the truth - Be specific about flaws - Positive reframing: Show the advantages of negative thoughts - Experiment: Test the truth - Compassion: Treat yourself like a dear friend - Rejection practice: Accumulate rejections and discover that the world won't come to an end - Feared fantasy: Imagine the worst fantasy and respond with the acceptance paradox - Blame cost benefit analysis. What are the advantages of blame? - Four Great Deaths - The Special Self: - Accept that you are not special. Accept that you're happy without needs, approval, self esteem, or self. - The Fearful Self: - Surrender to the fear. Stop trying to control or avoid the monster. - The Blaming/Blameless Self: - Discover that you're causing your relationship problems. Accept blame for creating the problem. Accept empowerment for creating loving relationships. - The Entitled/Pleasure Seeking Self: - Discover that you don't need pleasures from procrastinating or love.