- Nonviolent communication [https://youtu.be/2MExSN1GcHQ](https://youtu.be/2MExSN1GcHQ) - “Can I interrupt you for a moment? I have something going on with me” - “Do you have space to listen to me for 5-10 minutes?” - Check that they have space. Let them know what they’re saying yes to. - “How would it be for you to…” - “Would you be willing to try this strategy for X amount of time?” - For a request out of their comfort zone. An hour, a month, and then we check again - “Can I think about it and let you know tomorrow?” - Gives you time whether you have a full yes. If you don’t, you can think about how you want to share - “I’d really love to find a way to get both our needs met.” - Fragile terrority, I’m trigger or they are - “I’d prefer to do X because I have a need for Z” - Whenever I don’t have a yes, instead of saying no. A need for variety, connection. Find a way to connect with someone