- Questioner/s: Justifications, Information, Logic, Efficiency, Own Facts, Deciding for Self - Most Likely to Agree: I do what I think makes the most sense according to my judgment. Even if the rules or other people's expectations. - Worth the effort to spell out justification: Why this task, why this way, why now - Resist Arbitrary, ill informed and in effective - Purpose - But why? - It's my way or the wrong way - Justification leads to motivation - I'll comply if you convince me why - Prove it. - Don't lose sight of why - Blind obedience is servitude - Decisions/Analysis Paralsys - Clarity: Understand clearly why to meet an expectation in a particular way - Follow the lead of someone you respect - Restrict to trusted information sources - Talk to respected family member - Limit to one store that you trust - Use deadlines to force a decision - "Why should I be doing this, give me reasons?" - Questioners show a deep commitment to information, logic, and efficiency. They gather their own facts, decide for theselves. They object to anything arbitrary, ill reasoned, and ineffecient - A well explained and justified explanation works - I do what I think makes the most sense. Even if that means ignoring the rules or other's expectations - Questioners question everything - Resistant expectations easily - "Because questioners are inner-directed, once they have their mind up they follow through without much difficulty. They resist expectations without much difficulty too. they have the self-direction of upholders, reliability of obligers, and authenticity of rebels. Questioners may question the most basic customs and assumptions: Do I want to be married? If you're my boss, do I have to do what you tell me to do? Why shouldn't children be allowed to curse like adults? For questioners, it's crucial that an expectation seems reasonable and justified. They resist rules for rule's sake." Gretchen Rubin, The Four Tendencies - New year resolutions: Any time is right. Arbitrary date - Commitment if it makes good sense - Constant need for expectation exhausts me - Research and customization - I do what makes sense according to my judgement, even when it breaks rules. - Questions validity - The reason for the rule - "THe reason is X" - "It's easier to let others down than to let myself down"