NOTES - Nedra Tawwab - Nedra Tawwab on Love These Days > <https://www.stitcher.com/s?eid=81452862&refid=asa> - "The best time to talk is very early on. If possible, before any issues arise. Talk about how those relationships go. It's best that each of you manage your own families." - "Create those boundaries for yourself. Create them in your own life." - "If we're having intimate conversations, things we like and dislike about people will come up. Consider ways to preempt problems that you have. Practice before it becomes a really becomes a big thing. People like to think, I'll start setting boundaries because then I have a partner. - "As you become an adult, you can start to set those boundaries. So when you have a partner it's not super hard to set those boundaries, because then it looks like your partner is doing it." - "It is up to you to be like: This is serious to me. These are the things we can and can't talk about. This is how we are going to conduct ourselves." - "Create a space of just getting to know each other. Go in really open minded. Just be mindful of those prejudgements. Build a relationship first." - "We communicated to our families that this was someone special to us." - "His mom told me he doesn't usually bring women around. That told me this is something different and this isn't how he treats every girl." - "Very early on, set it up for success. Not like, "Surprise! I'm dating someone." Talk about it in this positive way so that's what they walk into. " - {Healthy communication requires listening to understand.}⁣ - Defensiveness gets in the way of talking through disputes and coming to a reasonable resolution. ⁣⁣⁣ - If you want to improve your communication, save the defensive reaction, and say" okay."⁣⁣⁣ - Or try one of these: ⁣⁣⁣